Awakened HUMAN
Tao-Tantra Retreat For Men
📍 Algarve, Portugal | 🗓 21–26 November 2025

Awaken your masculinity by transforming sexuality into a path of strength, purpose, and spiritual growth.

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Men’s sexual energy has always carried a paradox.

On one hand, it is the raw force of creation—the spark of life itself. On the other, it has too often been feared, shamed, or misused. Unlike women’s sexuality, which is often honoured as sacred, men’s erotic power is frequently misunderstood as something destructive, dangerous, or purely lust-driven.

Because of this, many men grow up without guidance. They inherit mixed messages: “suppress desire, toughen up, perform, don’t feel too much”. Over time, this creates a deep disconnection—from the body, from emotions, from intimacy, and even from purpose.

But here’s the truth: sexual energy is life force. Prana. Chi. It’s the current of vitality flowing through every man. When blocked by stress, shame, or old wounds, it leaves men restless, overthinking, and cut off from their natural strength. When cultivated with awareness, it becomes the gateway to power, presence, creativity, and love.

Are you someone who is experiencing:

Blocked Vitality

Stress and past emotions keep you stuck in your head and out of your body.
Unresolved Shame

Your desires feel taboo, turning sexuality into secrecy, guilt, or compulsive habits.
Disconnection From Intimacy

Many men feel numb, lacking intimacy with themselves and others.
Struggles In Relationships

Without true presence and grounded confidence, intimacy and connection suffer.
Isolation

Rarely do men find safe, supportive spaces to explore sexuality and masculinity openly.
Reduced Options

None of us were taught about hot to manage our sexual energy and so we miss out on so much more possibilities and choices.
Performance & Dissatisfaction

The old paradigm told you that you need to perform, to be hard and "give her" pleasure. This overly simple story does everyone a disservice.

WHAT THIS RETREAT OFFERS YOU

RECLAIM YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY

AS A SOURCE OF VITALITY AND INNER STRENGTH

SO THAT YOU FEEL WHOLE AGAIN

RELEASE OLD PATTERNS

OF STRESS, TENSION & SHAME FROM THE BODY

SO YOU CAN EXPERIENCE DEEPER AND DEEPER INTIMACY

CULTIVATE LASTING CONFIDENCE

IN YOUR EROTIC LIFE AND ELEVATE YOUR EVERYDAY PRESENCE

AND CREATIVITY

LEARN TANTRIC & TAOIST ALCHEMY PRACTICES

TO DISCOVER NEW LEVELS OF AWARENESS PLEASURE AND POWER

EXPAND YOUR CAPACITY

FOR JOY, MANIFESTATION OF DESIRES & ONGOING SPIRITUAL GROWTH

LEAVE FEELING ENERGISED, GROUNDED & ALIGNED

WITH YOUR TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF BY ACTIVATING YOUR WHOLENESS

Here, sexuality is not suppressed or misused.
It is honoured, refined, and transformed into a force that uplifts every part of your life —your relationships, your work, and your inner journey.

AWAKENED MASCULINITY

In this 6-day Tao-Tantra men's retreat, you are invited to come with us on a path of self-exploration, deep healing, and uncovering your true sexual and human potential, to become more authentic, truly present, and loving, a (hu)man who can access newfound states of embodied power and awakened bliss in your daily life.

WHAT WE WILL COVER ON THE RETREAT

Male Sexual Alchemy

Taoist Sexual Alchemy
Penis Reflexology
Mindful Masturbation
Male Solo Sex Magic

Discover the Taoist and Tantric way to harness your sexual energy—instead of just releasing it, learn to circulate and build it for deeper pleasure and vitality. Through penis reflexology, energy practices, and ancient alchemy, you'll balance your hormones, calm your nervous system, and transform this powerful life force into higher awareness and empowerment.

Embodied Relating

Embodied Relating
Wheel of Consent
Non-Violent Communication
Embodiment Practices

Deepen your relationships by embracing your emotions and needs with confidence. Somatic practices like breathwork, pelvic floor awareness, and mindful movement help you release tension and stay present, fostering authentic connections. Embodied Relating grounds you in your body’s experiences to enhance intimacy with yourself and others.

Healthy Masculinity

Explore Your True Masculinity
Shadow Work & Ego Dynamics
Male Archetypes

Discover your true masculinity by healing emotional wounds and reconnecting with your heart. Through trauma-informed tantra, release fear-based patterns and awaken your innate healing power. Embrace shadow work to uncover unconscious habits and ego dynamics, fostering self-awareness.

Conscious Lover

Male & Female Polarities
Conscious Sexuality
The Art of Conscious Touch

Explore the art of conscious touch and lovemaking through Taoist and Tantric philosophies. Understand male and female polarities and your electromagnetic nature to enhance intimacy.

Learn to move beyond ego-driven patterns in relationships, becoming a conscious lover. By channeling sexual life-force, heal core wounds, relax into a lighter state, and unlock powerful manifestation. Take your first steps toward deep connection and mastery in love.

Find your shared roots and rise in brotherhood.

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program

Become a Man who knows the secrets of Sexual Energy Cultivation.

Sexual energy is your life force—Prana or Chi—but past emotions can block its flow, leaving you disconnected and overthinking. Male erotic energy is often misunderstood as controlling or destructive. At this retreat, you’ll reclaim your natural phallic power as a source of creative, heartfelt vitality, unlocking confidence and connection.

Through Taoist alchemy and somatic coaching, reconnect with your erotic energy as a source of vitality and confidence. These practices release tension, break old habits, and ground you in your body. Transform your sexual energy into inner strength, deeper pleasure, and authentic self-expression for a more empowered you.

Discover how to harness erotic energy for freedom, intimacy, and growth. Learn to circulate this power to boost confidence, enhance pleasure, and deepen connections. These practices go beyond sex—they awaken a present, grounded, and spiritually aligned you, ready to live with purpose and vitality. Join us to unlock your full potential.

The quality of your life reflects the quality of your relationships. Past participants report stronger intimacy and love with their partners, plus richer connections in all relationships. By harnessing your erotic energy, you’ll cultivate presence and authenticity, transforming how you relate to others and enriching your life.

Sacred Relationship with my body

My series of sessions with Julian were transformative. I now have a very passionate and fulfilling relationship with my partner thanks to the work that I did with Julian. I feel more connected with my body and as a result capable of connecting with my partner at a deeper level. Julian has a vast wealth of wisdom, knowledge, sensibility and is very dedicated to his profession. He's a professional with great heart and passion for helping his clients. I highly recommend him for anyone seeking either individual our couples work

Alex MacD

Coach, Portugal

Hello Pola. I would like to thank you for this wonderful, emotional, healing, consciousness-expanding and energising life experience. I understand what it's all about, what energy work is and what it can trigger. I feel synchronised with the feminine energy. I can finally show my feelings and let them come to the surface again. And (hopefully) I no longer have to run away from heartbreak and can be there with unconditional love. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Andreas

Bar Manager, Switzerland

Multi-dimensional wide-open wonder

I enrolled in a retreat that Julian was co-facilitating, I got introduced to his work, and I got to know him in different dimensions which brought so much into my journey. He took me on a journey of diving to explore new subjects and go deeper inside to discover more and more about myself. I went there with curiosity and came out on the other side in wide-open wonder. One of the things that is still with me to this day, is learning to "Feel and Follow". This represents the journey I was already in, and it expanded even further.

Joao Pedro

Entrepreneur + Investor

It took me years to find a place like Pola's, heartfelt, open, warm, respectful and with Pola as a very skilled teacher, not afraid to be at her most vulnerable. My heart was opened like never before, and there is really a before and after Pola for me. Connecting your lingam with your heart is life-changing. You realise that frictional sex is so outdated... it is connecting, being vulnerable and growing in your healthy masculine. I have seen people growing and transforming into the best version of themselves. Shame and guilt disappeared, and self-awareness and surrendering grew amazingly. And I made friends for life. Wish I had done this in my 20s... Going felt like stretching my comfort zone, but it was so worth the experience.

Never die at the end of your life regretting things you didn't do.

Roelof

Chakra Therapist, Cyprus

Pola's work is inspirational and life-changing to open-minded students. The concept of unconditional love with no sexual intent frees up the mind to new, wonderful possibilities for physical pleasure, which are taught with great detail and a keen sense of humour. I arrived feeling rather vulnerable with a few hang-ups, but soon realised that whatever Pola suggested trying would give me delicious feelings of pleasure and happiness. We start as a group of individuals, and after a few days, we become a team of people who are open to each other but not judgmental and end up as friends. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, and love with the world. You are truly a beautiful Goddess and Teacher.

Jim

82, Pensioner, UK, Portugal

I was fortunate enough to spend a few sessions working with Pola, and it is no exaggeration to say that the work we did together transformed my life. With a combination of Tantric coaching, breathwork, bodywork, and massage, Pola introduced me to Tantra in a way that was both structured specifically for my needs and organic enough to allow the sessions to move in whichever direction felt right. As a complete beginner, I was admittedly nervous when I first contacted Pola, but then we spoke on the phone and she immediately put me at ease. Likewise, the minute I entered her studio and talked about the session ahead, I felt comfortable and reassured. Then, throughout the sessions themselves, Pola was able to show me things which I had never before thought possible, things that opened my eyes and changed the way I perceive the world – for the better. Unfortunately, I do not live in Portugal, but if I did I would like to work with Pola on a regular basis, as I feel there is still so much I could learn from her. In short – thank you, Pola. For everything.

Tim

35, UK

I realise now the space in which sexuality can freely arise. Sharing love without a determination of sexual entertainment or satisfaction opens up the gateway of a sexual experience a 1000 times bigger than my first sexual intercourse. A sexual rebirth, and another confirmation of how nice life can be when boundaries are left behind. I recommend all to join a session with Pola, as it is warm, comforting, without any obligation or persuasion, and completely freeing, very easy to surrender into a warm bath of love.

Miguel

42, Portugal

I was a participant on a 5 day retreat where Julian was Co Facilitator, and my experience was overwhelmingly positive. He clearly has a depth of wisdom and experiential knowledge around the topic of sexuality and I really loved his warm, playful energy and authentic passion for what he does. He is a creative bright force, showing strong integrity and ethics, bringing his open loving heart to those who have the fortune to receive.

Lawrence Michaels

Self Employed

I would like to thank Pola for her ability to bring a group of people together in this format, allowing us to grow and take tantric knowledge to the world out there. This experience was wonderful, especially because of the connections felt between everyone as if they were a family. Each one was able to be what they are. In other words: sharing, union, surrender, love. Definitely, the elements of the Tribe made us go through different experiences and sensations. This is what humanity is in need of. To live love more broadly, to expand love and affection to a wider community and not just to one person or family. An inner encounter with all our nature, with all our senses. In conclusion, Pola managed this gathering in a flawless, great way, adapting each moment to each person’s intensity level.

Antonio

62, Lawyer, Portugal

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

This retreat is for you if ...

... you feel you have potential not yet realised, we will help you unlock and uplevel all areas of your life by addressing limiting beliefs and stories.
... you feel disconnected from your life-force or erotic joy, and feel eager to explore new dimensions of pleasure and connection.
... you have always been curious what is possible with tantra and tao practices for men, expanded pleasure states and lasting longer in bed + more
... you are ready to overcome shame & insecurity holding you back from asking for what you want and living out your deepest relationship dreams.
... you know the lasting transformative power of deep-diving in retreat with committed fellow brothers aligned to the same goals.
... you feel it’s time to explore and empower your core relationship to sex and masculinity in a constructive way.
... you yearn for added depth in your intimate connections but are unsure what might be missing.

If you resonate with any of this then we are excited and honoured to have the opportunity to serve you in this journey of realising this in your life.

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This retreat is not for you if …

... you feel uncomfortable exploring topics related to sexuality, intimacy, or masculinity in a safe, guided environment.
... you want a retreat focused solely on individual work rather than the power of group connection and shared learning.
... you are seeking a purely physical or technique-focused experience without interest in emotional or spiritual growth.
... you are unwilling to engage in open, vulnerable, and respectful group discussions with other men.
... you prefer to avoid self-reflection or addressing personal limiting beliefs and insecurities.
... you are looking for a quick fix or instant results without committing to the transformative process.
... you are not ready to connect with a supportive community of men aligned with similar growth-oriented goals.

RETREAT TOPIC FOCUS

Discover how to harness erotic energy for freedom, intimacy, and growth. Learn to circulate this power to boost confidence, enhance pleasure, and deepen connections. These practices go beyond sex—they awaken a present, grounded, and spiritually aligned you, ready to live with purpose and vitality.

Join us to unlock your full potential.

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We will go with the group’s flow as much as possible and choose what is most relevant to the group process from our rich experience and tools. There will be lots of room for healing, sharing and integration.

FACILITATORS

POLA VIDA

Tantra Teacher

I am a Tantra teacher, a Shamanism practitioner, and a Heyoka (Psychic Empath). My journey has been guided by these transformative practices and my gifts as an empath and spiritual therapist. I channel and transform energies for healing.

I am fascinated by sensual mastery, the Oneness-Love experience of Tantra and Shamanism, and the power of true (sexual) freedom. I can look back on over 15 years of experience in all kinds of holistic healing therapies, energy work. I teach and share Tantra Therapy and blend it with other holistic therapies I have trained in.

I offer guidance in sexual healing, self-love, and self-confidence to individuals and couples through spiritual and practical coaching. My passion is to support individuals to radically transform their lives. I am condensing my intuition and therapeutic experience to help you heal and release.

It took me years to find a place like Pola's, heartfelt, open, warm, respectful and with Pola as a very skilled teacher, not afraid to be at her most vulnerable. My heart was opened like never before, and there is really a before and after Pola for me. Connecting your lingam with your heart is life-changing. You realise that frictional sex is so outdated... it is connecting, being vulnerable and growing in your healthy masculine. I have seen people growing and transforming into the best version of themselves. Shame and guilt disappeared, and self-awareness and surrendering grew amazingly. And I made friends for life. Wish I had done this in my 20s... Going felt like stretching my comfort zone, but it was so worth the experience.

Never die at the end of your life regretting things you didn't do.

Roelof

Chakra Therapist, Cyprus

Hello Pola. I would like to thank you for this wonderful, emotional, healing, consciousness-expanding and energising life experience. I understand what it's all about, what energy work is and what it can trigger. I feel synchronised with the feminine energy. I can finally show my feelings and let them come to the surface again. And (hopefully) I no longer have to run away from heartbreak and can be there with unconditional love. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Andreas

Bar Manager, Switzerland

Pola's work is inspirational and life-changing to open-minded students. The concept of unconditional love with no sexual intent frees up the mind to new, wonderful possibilities for physical pleasure, which are taught with great detail and a keen sense of humour. I arrived feeling rather vulnerable with a few hang-ups, but soon realised that whatever Pola suggested trying would give me delicious feelings of pleasure and happiness. We start as a group of individuals, and after a few days, we become a team of people who are open to each other but not judgmental and end up as friends. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, and love with the world. You are truly a beautiful Goddess and Teacher.

Jim

82, Pensioner, UK, Portugal

Sacred Relationship with my body

My series of sessions with Julian were transformative. I now have a very passionate and fulfilling relationship with my partner thanks to the work that I did with Julian. I feel more connected with my body and as a result capable of connecting with my partner at a deeper level. Julian has a vast wealth of wisdom, knowledge, sensibility and is very dedicated to his profession. He's a professional with great heart and passion for helping his clients. I highly recommend him for anyone seeking either individual our couples work

Alex MacD

Coach, Portugal

Multi-dimensional wide-open wonder

I enrolled in a retreat that Julian was co-facilitating, I got introduced to his work, and I got to know him in different dimensions which brought so much into my journey. He took me on a journey of diving to explore new subjects and go deeper inside to discover more and more about myself. I went there with curiosity and came out on the other side in wide-open wonder. One of the things that is still with me to this day, is learning to "Feel and Follow". This represents the journey I was already in, and it expanded even further.

Joao Pedro

Entrepreneur + Investor

I realise now the space in which sexuality can freely arise. Sharing love without a determination of sexual entertainment or satisfaction opens up the gateway of a sexual experience a 1000 times bigger than my first sexual intercourse. A sexual rebirth, and another confirmation of how nice life can be when boundaries are left behind. I recommend all to join a session with Pola, as it is warm, comforting, without any obligation or persuasion, and completely freeing, very easy to surrender into a warm bath of love.

Miguel

42, Portugal

I was fortunate enough to spend a few sessions working with Pola, and it is no exaggeration to say that the work we did together transformed my life. With a combination of Tantric coaching, breathwork, bodywork, and massage, Pola introduced me to Tantra in a way that was both structured specifically for my needs and organic enough to allow the sessions to move in whichever direction felt right. As a complete beginner, I was admittedly nervous when I first contacted Pola, but then we spoke on the phone and she immediately put me at ease. Likewise, the minute I entered her studio and talked about the session ahead, I felt comfortable and reassured. Then, throughout the sessions themselves, Pola was able to show me things which I had never before thought possible, things that opened my eyes and changed the way I perceive the world – for the better. Unfortunately, I do not live in Portugal, but if I did I would like to work with Pola on a regular basis, as I feel there is still so much I could learn from her. In short – thank you, Pola. For everything.

Tim

35, UK

I would like to thank Pola for her ability to bring a group of people together in this format, allowing us to grow and take tantric knowledge to the world out there. This experience was wonderful, especially because of the connections felt between everyone as if they were a family. Each one was able to be what they are. In other words: sharing, union, surrender, love. Definitely, the elements of the Tribe made us go through different experiences and sensations. This is what humanity is in need of. To live love more broadly, to expand love and affection to a wider community and not just to one person or family. An inner encounter with all our nature, with all our senses. In conclusion, Pola managed this gathering in a flawless, great way, adapting each moment to each person’s intensity level.

Antonio

62, Lawyer, Portugal

I was a participant on a 5 day retreat where Julian was Co Facilitator, and my experience was overwhelmingly positive. He clearly has a depth of wisdom and experiential knowledge around the topic of sexuality and I really loved his warm, playful energy and authentic passion for what he does. He is a creative bright force, showing strong integrity and ethics, bringing his open loving heart to those who have the fortune to receive.

Lawrence Michaels

Self Employed

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

JULIAN MARCUS

Somatic Sex Educator

Julian is a Certified Somatic Sex Educator, Taoist Sexual Alchemy Mentor and Sex-Coach for Men. Julian’s passion is to facilitate and support the joyful embodiment of your healthiest and happiest erotic self and in tune with others. He has helped 100’s of client over the past 25 years as a practitioner specialising in helping men live a more fulfilled sexual life.

As a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex Educator he has a huge passion for expanding mens experience of healthy and fulfilling sexuality which fuels my capacity for working with people through teaching and private practice. His work in this area has been evolving for the past 25 years incorporating talk approaches, breathing, embodiment, alchemical / energy and self -massage skills.

He offers a fluid, unique, unified approach in service of erotic growth and integration that supports resilience and joyful sexual embodiment. Move from sexual dissatisfaction into deep honouring connection with your blissful body.

Clients and students regularly report Julian’s coaching helped them to discover deep and resounding sense of satisfaction, pleasure and even a renewed sense of purpose and clarity with their desires and life goals.

I was a participant on a 5 day retreat where Julian was Co Facilitator, and my experience was overwhelmingly positive. He clearly has a depth of wisdom and experiential knowledge around the topic of sexuality and I really loved his warm, playful energy and authentic passion for what he does. He is a creative bright force, showing strong integrity and ethics, bringing his open loving heart to those who have the fortune to receive.

Lawrence Michaels

Self Employed

Sacred Relationship with my body

My series of sessions with Julian were transformative. I now have a very passionate and fulfilling relationship with my partner thanks to the work that I did with Julian. I feel more connected with my body and as a result capable of connecting with my partner at a deeper level. Julian has a vast wealth of wisdom, knowledge, sensibility and is very dedicated to his profession. He's a professional with great heart and passion for helping his clients. I highly recommend him for anyone seeking either individual our couples work

Alex MacD

Coach, Portugal

Multi-dimensional wide-open wonder

I enrolled in a retreat that Julian was co-facilitating, I got introduced to his work, and I got to know him in different dimensions which brought so much into my journey. He took me on a journey of diving to explore new subjects and go deeper inside to discover more and more about myself. I went there with curiosity and came out on the other side in wide-open wonder. One of the things that is still with me to this day, is learning to "Feel and Follow". This represents the journey I was already in, and it expanded even further.

Joao Pedro

Entrepreneur + Investor

Hello Pola. I would like to thank you for this wonderful, emotional, healing, consciousness-expanding and energising life experience. I understand what it's all about, what energy work is and what it can trigger. I feel synchronised with the feminine energy. I can finally show my feelings and let them come to the surface again. And (hopefully) I no longer have to run away from heartbreak and can be there with unconditional love. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Andreas

Bar Manager, Switzerland

It took me years to find a place like Pola's, heartfelt, open, warm, respectful and with Pola as a very skilled teacher, not afraid to be at her most vulnerable. My heart was opened like never before, and there is really a before and after Pola for me. Connecting your lingam with your heart is life-changing. You realise that frictional sex is so outdated... it is connecting, being vulnerable and growing in your healthy masculine. I have seen people growing and transforming into the best version of themselves. Shame and guilt disappeared, and self-awareness and surrendering grew amazingly. And I made friends for life. Wish I had done this in my 20s... Going felt like stretching my comfort zone, but it was so worth the experience.

Never die at the end of your life regretting things you didn't do.

Roelof

Chakra Therapist, Cyprus

Pola's work is inspirational and life-changing to open-minded students. The concept of unconditional love with no sexual intent frees up the mind to new, wonderful possibilities for physical pleasure, which are taught with great detail and a keen sense of humour. I arrived feeling rather vulnerable with a few hang-ups, but soon realised that whatever Pola suggested trying would give me delicious feelings of pleasure and happiness. We start as a group of individuals, and after a few days, we become a team of people who are open to each other but not judgmental and end up as friends. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, and love with the world. You are truly a beautiful Goddess and Teacher.

Jim

82, Pensioner, UK, Portugal

I realise now the space in which sexuality can freely arise. Sharing love without a determination of sexual entertainment or satisfaction opens up the gateway of a sexual experience a 1000 times bigger than my first sexual intercourse. A sexual rebirth, and another confirmation of how nice life can be when boundaries are left behind. I recommend all to join a session with Pola, as it is warm, comforting, without any obligation or persuasion, and completely freeing, very easy to surrender into a warm bath of love.

Miguel

42, Portugal

I was fortunate enough to spend a few sessions working with Pola, and it is no exaggeration to say that the work we did together transformed my life. With a combination of Tantric coaching, breathwork, bodywork, and massage, Pola introduced me to Tantra in a way that was both structured specifically for my needs and organic enough to allow the sessions to move in whichever direction felt right. As a complete beginner, I was admittedly nervous when I first contacted Pola, but then we spoke on the phone and she immediately put me at ease. Likewise, the minute I entered her studio and talked about the session ahead, I felt comfortable and reassured. Then, throughout the sessions themselves, Pola was able to show me things which I had never before thought possible, things that opened my eyes and changed the way I perceive the world – for the better. Unfortunately, I do not live in Portugal, but if I did I would like to work with Pola on a regular basis, as I feel there is still so much I could learn from her. In short – thank you, Pola. For everything.

Tim

35, UK

I would like to thank Pola for her ability to bring a group of people together in this format, allowing us to grow and take tantric knowledge to the world out there. This experience was wonderful, especially because of the connections felt between everyone as if they were a family. Each one was able to be what they are. In other words: sharing, union, surrender, love. Definitely, the elements of the Tribe made us go through different experiences and sensations. This is what humanity is in need of. To live love more broadly, to expand love and affection to a wider community and not just to one person or family. An inner encounter with all our nature, with all our senses. In conclusion, Pola managed this gathering in a flawless, great way, adapting each moment to each person’s intensity level.

Antonio

62, Lawyer, Portugal

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

EVENT DETAILS
START: Friday, 21 November 2025 – 12 am
END: Wednesday, 26 November 2025 – 5 pm
LOCATION:
The Sanctuary, Moncarapacho/Olhão – Algarve, South Portugal (for directions, scroll down)
SCHEDULE:
Daily sessions from 10 am to 7 pm with a 2.5-hour lunch break.
Breakfast is served at 9 am, dinner latest at 8 pm.
LANGUAGE:
The retreat will be held in ENGLISH (Translation to GERMAN or PORTUGUESE possible).

PARTICIPATION REQUIREMENTS:
This Tantra retreat is for men only. The approximate number of participants is 16 men. The retreat is trauma-informed and includes intimate practices and shadow work. Nudity is voluntary. – This is an alcohol and drug-free event.

RESERVE MY SPOT

OUR LOCATION - THE SANCTUARY
The Sanctuary is a beautiful, private quinta and Pola Vida’s home, situated in the Central Algarve near Moncarapacho/Olhão, in the middle of the wonderful, tranquil nature park around the Cerro da Cabeça mountain and close to the sea. The charming fisherman’s town of Fuseta is just 10 minutes away, and within 20 minutes you can reach the city of Olhão.

The outside area of the quinta is a green oasis, surrounded by nature and a large private pool with an ocean view. The retreat location allows you to reconnect with nature’s rhythms and find inspiration in the natural world. It’s a perfect backdrop for your journey of self-discovery and empowerment. There are also amazing treks for hiking in the area.

AWAKENED HUMAN – MEN'S RETREAT
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

PARTICIPATION REQUIREMENTS

ABOUT THE RETREAT

PRACTICAL INFORMATION

True masculine power is creative, sustaining, and regenerative.

RESERVE MY SPOT

After a massage I gave to a friend from the group just a couple of days ago, in which I got to witness profound surrender/release of stuck energy, I realised how much Love wants to move through my hands and that my being thrives in this tantric practice, cultivating higher presence in a profound act of serving, giving and receiving.

Uros

Gardener, Croatia

I was fortunate enough to spend a few sessions working with Pola, and it is no exaggeration to say that the work we did together transformed my life. With a combination of Tantric coaching, breathwork, bodywork, and massage, Pola introduced me to Tantra in a way that was both structured specifically for my needs and organic enough to allow the sessions to move in whichever direction felt right. As a complete beginner, I was admittedly nervous when I first contacted Pola, but then we spoke on the phone and she immediately put me at ease. Likewise, the minute I entered her studio and talked about the session ahead, I felt comfortable and reassured. Then, throughout the sessions themselves, Pola was able to show me things which I had never before thought possible, things that opened my eyes and changed the way I perceive the world – for the better. Unfortunately, I do not live in Portugal, but if I did I would like to work with Pola on a regular basis, as I feel there is still so much I could learn from her. In short – thank you, Pola. For everything.

Tim

35, UK

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

Pola's work is inspirational and life-changing to open-minded students. The concept of unconditional love with no sexual intent frees up the mind to new, wonderful possibilities for physical pleasure, which are taught with great detail and a keen sense of humour. I arrived feeling rather vulnerable with a few hang-ups, but soon realised that whatever Pola suggested trying would give me delicious feelings of pleasure and happiness. We start as a group of individuals, and after a few days, we become a team of people who are open to each other but not judgmental and end up as friends. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, and love with the world. You are truly a beautiful Goddess and Teacher.

Jim

82, Pensioner, UK, Portugal

It took me years to find a place like Pola's, heartfelt, open, warm, respectful and with Pola as a very skilled teacher, not afraid to be at her most vulnerable. My heart was opened like never before, and there is really a before and after Pola for me. Connecting your lingam with your heart is life-changing. You realise that frictional sex is so outdated... it is connecting, being vulnerable and growing in your healthy masculine. I have seen people growing and transforming into the best version of themselves. Shame and guilt disappeared, and self-awareness and surrendering grew amazingly. And I made friends for life. Wish I had done this in my 20s... Going felt like stretching my comfort zone, but it was so worth the experience.

Never die at the end of your life regretting things you didn't do.

Roelof

Chakra Therapist, Cyprus

Hello Pola. I would like to thank you for this wonderful, emotional, healing, consciousness-expanding and energising life experience. I understand what it's all about, what energy work is and what it can trigger. I feel synchronised with the feminine energy. I can finally show my feelings and let them come to the surface again. And (hopefully) I no longer have to run away from heartbreak and can be there with unconditional love. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Andreas

Bar Manager, Switzerland

Sacred Relationship with my body

My series of sessions with Julian were transformative. I now have a very passionate and fulfilling relationship with my partner thanks to the work that I did with Julian. I feel more connected with my body and as a result capable of connecting with my partner at a deeper level. Julian has a vast wealth of wisdom, knowledge, sensibility and is very dedicated to his profession. He's a professional with great heart and passion for helping his clients. I highly recommend him for anyone seeking either individual our couples work

Alex MacD

Coach, Portugal

Multi-dimensional wide-open wonder

I enrolled in a retreat that Julian was co-facilitating, I got introduced to his work, and I got to know him in different dimensions which brought so much into my journey. He took me on a journey of diving to explore new subjects and go deeper inside to discover more and more about myself. I went there with curiosity and came out on the other side in wide-open wonder. One of the things that is still with me to this day, is learning to "Feel and Follow". This represents the journey I was already in, and it expanded even further.

Joao Pedro

Entrepreneur + Investor

I realise now the space in which sexuality can freely arise. Sharing love without a determination of sexual entertainment or satisfaction opens up the gateway of a sexual experience a 1000 times bigger than my first sexual intercourse. A sexual rebirth, and another confirmation of how nice life can be when boundaries are left behind. I recommend all to join a session with Pola, as it is warm, comforting, without any obligation or persuasion, and completely freeing, very easy to surrender into a warm bath of love.

Miguel

42, Portugal

I would like to thank Pola for her ability to bring a group of people together in this format, allowing us to grow and take tantric knowledge to the world out there. This experience was wonderful, especially because of the connections felt between everyone as if they were a family. Each one was able to be what they are. In other words: sharing, union, surrender, love. Definitely, the elements of the Tribe made us go through different experiences and sensations. This is what humanity is in need of. To live love more broadly, to expand love and affection to a wider community and not just to one person or family. An inner encounter with all our nature, with all our senses. In conclusion, Pola managed this gathering in a flawless, great way, adapting each moment to each person’s intensity level.

Antonio

62, Lawyer, Portugal

I was a participant on a 5 day retreat where Julian was Co Facilitator, and my experience was overwhelmingly positive. He clearly has a depth of wisdom and experiential knowledge around the topic of sexuality and I really loved his warm, playful energy and authentic passion for what he does. He is a creative bright force, showing strong integrity and ethics, bringing his open loving heart to those who have the fortune to receive.

Lawrence Michaels

Self Employed

I had no experience with Tantra. I had been interested in it for a long time and have had a big tantra book for five years standing around, but the book was always too theoretical for me; however, I realised this only with the course. I was really excited before the course. It took a lot of effort to go there, and it also took a lot of effort to overcome myself during the course. But now I can say that it was worth it in several aspects: In the course, I experienced for the first time what it means to love and let love itself. I was able to reduce the fears of touch and performance that I have as a young man. With more self-love towards myself, I can now be softer with the touches and thus enjoy them all the more. I appreciated Pola's awareness and consideration of the female and male participants and their traumas. I felt respectfully treated by her, even though I had difficult moments from time to time. As a group, under Pola’s guidance, we dove into a wonderful world where, for me, the boundaries of age and gender dissolved. I began to perceive my fellow human beings more and more as sentient beings. A big thank you to Pola for your great commitment during the intensive days of the course!

Patrick

29, Musician, Switzerland

HOW TO GET THERE
By Car:
The Sanctuary is situated in the nature park around the Cerro da Cabeça mountain, near Moncarapacho. You will receive a detailed description and the coordinates with your booking.
By Airplane:
The nearest airport is Faro Airport (35km). From the airport, you can take a taxi to our place, or the Faro train station (15 min) to take the train to Fuseta, from where we can pick you up.
By Train:
The nearest train station is in Fuseta (25 min from Faro or 3.5 hours from Lisbon). From there we will pick you up. You can book the train here: www.cp.pt

FOOD
Our creative chef will spoil you with delicious vegetarian and vegan meals, with mostly local and organic ingredients. We will enjoy making you feel nourished from the inside and outside, feeding not only your stomach but all your senses. Amazing smells, tastes, and textures, made and served with the greatest Love. Eat in a cosy room by the fireplace, or on the outside terrace with a sea view!
Our food is mostly vegetarian or vegan, and we take care of any food imbalances that you have. Just let us know with your registration.

PRACTICALITIES

PRICES & ACCOMMODATION
All prices are per person for 5 nights and 6 days, and include the teaching fee, accommodation, all meals (vegan/vegetarian breakfast, lunch, and dinner), snacks, and beverages like water, tea, and coffee.
The EARLY BIRD prices are valid until 30 September 2025.
* Single Bed Shared Room (Dormitory): EARLY BIRD 1600€ | REGULAR 1900€

* Private Studio: EARLY BIRD 2300€ | REGULAR 2600€
Complete privacy in a studio with a king-size bed, a private bathroom, air conditioning, and floor heating.

* Camping: EARLY BIRD 1200€ | REGULAR 1500€
Choose a beautiful spot in nature on the property for your own tent or van. With access to an outdoor shower, a sustainable compost toilet, and to the shared bathroom in the dormitory.

HELPERS

If you are interested to come as a helper with a price reduction, please let us know with your registration. There are 3 helper spots available.
Helpers are full participants and pay only 1050€ in exchange for helping in the kitchen and with cleaning during the retreat during the breaks.

Extra Nights
Extra nights are available for 1 day before and after the retreat.
Check-In: 16h / Check-Out: 11h
* Prices per night with/without dinner & breakfast:
Dormitory 50€/35€ | Camping 30€/15€ | Studio 110€/95€

CONTACT
telegram: https:/t.me/polavida
mobile: +351 920 307 851 (signal, WhatsApp)

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Start your journey to transformation and empowerment

To register, please fill out the form below.
Once your registration is accepted, you will receive an email with the booking confirmation with the payment details.

PAYMENT AND CANCELLATION POLICY

Payment: A payment of the total price of the event is required to complete your booking and guarantee your space. In case of a payment of a deposit, the remaining amount is due by the latest 21 days before the first day of the event to guarantee your spot. A deposit of 30% of the total price of the event is non-refundable.

Cancellations: Requesting cancellation for any event is only accepted if sent by email. A cancellation fee of 30% of the total price of the event is applied until 21 days before the first day of the event and includes any non-refundable deposit. If a request for cancellation is done within 21 days prior to the first day of the event, no refunds will be applied unless there is another participant filling your space.

Please read the Terms & Conditions.

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Awakened HUMAN Tao-Tantra Retreat For Men📍 Algarve, Portugal | 🗓 21–26 November 2025 Awaken your masculinity by transforming sexuality into a path of strength, purpose, and spiritual growth.

Male Sexual AlchemyTaoist Sexual AlchemyPenis ReflexologyMindful MasturbationMale Solo Sex Magic

Embodied RelatingEmbodied RelatingWheel of ConsentNon-Violent CommunicationEmbodiment Practices

Healthy MasculinityExplore Your True MasculinityShadow Work & Ego DynamicsMale Archetypes

Conscious LoverMale & Female PolaritiesConscious SexualityThe Art of Conscious Touch

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Awakened HUMAN
Tao-Tantra Retreat For Men
📍 Algarve, Portugal | 🗓 21–26 November 2025

Awaken your masculinity by transforming sexuality into a path of strength, purpose, and spiritual growth.

Male Sexual Alchemy

Taoist Sexual Alchemy
Penis Reflexology
Mindful Masturbation
Male Solo Sex Magic

Embodied Relating

Embodied Relating
Wheel of Consent
Non-Violent Communication
Embodiment Practices

Healthy Masculinity

Explore Your True Masculinity
Shadow Work & Ego Dynamics
Male Archetypes

Conscious Lover

Male & Female Polarities
Conscious Sexuality
The Art of Conscious Touch